A Few Bad Men
I’ve been watching (students, friends) and hearing about gorgeous, intelligent women falling for completely rotten men, and wondering why. What is the basis of this so called falling in love/lust? What attracts us to a person? What is it about someone’s eyes/voice/hands that tend to disconnect your brain from your actions?
I read sometime ago that chemistry and instant attraction is based on long ago patterns of survival; basically the selfish gene making sure it gets propagated. Therefore, men tend to get attracted to women with an hourglass figure – women with high levels of progesterone tending to reproduce effectively. (This answered a question that’s bugging me for a long time – how on earth men can like women with practically nothing above the clavicle.)
Females on the other hand would like someone who could provide for the offspring, and tend to gravitate towards guys who are competent. Looking back, I think it’s true. All the guys I have fallen for were, without exception, intelligent – even the slightly creepy ones.
But, if the ladies fall for intelligent men, and the gentlemen (less evolved ) fall for what is their concept of good looking women, it still does not explain why women get attracted to arrogant, selfish types who dominate them, tell them what to do and treat them like their brains are merely incidental.
Bewildered.
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